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A Dad’s Love

My dad was a great guy. I know, all the children say this, but I’m not the only one to know this fact.

Yesterday my mom and I were on the Hidden Kalamazoo tour, and we ran into a great many friends and acquaintances. One such acquaintance, we haven’t seen in years. When my mom approached him, he said that he absolutely remembered her and my dad. He went on and on about how great my dad was. When we met his son in another area of the building later, he said the same thing. My dad was easy to talk to, fair in his pricing, and always ready with assistance no matter the situation.

Other people have come up to us over the years with the most kind words about my dad. They appreciated him, respected him, and enjoyed talking with him. No matter the relationship, he left a positive impression.

One that touches my more than others this year is Bob Medema. He stopped by a few months after my dad had passed on. He would occasionally stop in now and again to visit, and this was one such time. Unfortunately, he’d missed the news, and my mom had to tell him. He did not take it well. He cried on the spot. A few days later, he dropped off cookies.

That was Bob, just the kind of man my dad was (except that my dad pretended he could not cook with my mother, while telling me how to make dishes the way he liked them). My dad would have brought a card or had my mom and I make something to take. At the lose of Bob Medema, my dad would have been stricken to sadness as well and furious at the greed of society for the way in which this community lost Bob.

The blessing today, when I miss my dad, is that he had a long, loving, and good life. His life was filled with hard work and hard times, but he filled the world with the Lord’s kind of love and humility.

Morale of the Story: One of my many, constant prayers is that all children could have a dad like my dad.

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Posted by on June 17, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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To Watch and Protect

Parents. Guardians. Caretakers. Foster Family. Adoptive Family.

These are just some of the people in our lives who have the greatest responsibility to watch and protect the world’s future: our youth.

Somedays, I can’t believe anyone makes it from infancy to adulthood. There are so many issues that could overtake and end our lives, such as illness or accidents, nevermind abuse. Tonight, I was watching Chime for Change on NBC. It was a musical fundraiser for women’s rights worldwide. It reminded me of all the people who made it possible for me to become an adult.

I don’t give my mom enough credit. I don’t necessarily always agree with her methods, but the fact remains that all she’s ever done is for the good of her children. She wanted us to know that life is not easy, there are challenges, and although she might not have agreed with our decisions, she has always been here for us. Who do we call when the chips are down? Mom. Who is always ready with a meal? Mom. Who keeps the memory of our father alive and well? Mom. Who bails us out when we make boo-boos? Mom.

Thank you, mom, for guiding me on the steps of life.

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Posted by on June 3, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Sisters, Sometimes

These girls are sisters, most of the time. Or is that some of the time?

Any which way, we have adopted these two kitties. I call them sisters. They were not born sisters by blood, but in our eyes, in our home, they are now sisters. I believe most pet adopters feel this way.

Yet in the world, as a human, I have a half-sister and a half-brother. My mom is their step-mom. My brother calls me his sister and he calls my mom his mom. My sister calls me her half-sister and she calls my mom her step-mom. I have always called them my sister and brother.

Then again, I am significantly younger, and they have always been here from my perspective. My mom did not pass away from this earth, and I did not witness my father date and then marry another woman. I figured that was why my one sister referred to me as her half and my mom her step. No matter, they are all I’ve got in the way of siblings, and I call them my sister and my brother – the extra step and half of that doesn’t matter to me. I love them.

On another note, my eldest sister was still alive when her ex-husband remarried. That new woman wanted my eldest sister’s children to call her mom. She was not only their step-mom, but their real mom was merely a couple of miles away. This confused the kids. My mom, who was the only living mother of my siblings never expected her step-children to call her mom. She did not want to dishonor the memory of their mother.

My mom, when referring to my great, great grandpa says that we are his family. However, his brother is only a “distant relation”. I don’t quite understand this since they were brothers; equal in relation. Yes, one is my great, great-grandfather, and the other is my great, great, great-uncle. But both are part of my history. Both share a genetic make-up of my being. Both to me are family, end of discussion.

Oh, the trials of family! I prefer to say sister, brother, mother, cousin, niece, nephew, etc., and I tend to find it more respectful of the relationship. Yet, there are times when it is disrespectful. Thank goodness our cats don’t argue with me. They are sisters to each other, and I love them all as children. Adopted or otherwise.

Morale of the Story: Treat all with love, no matter how you are related, if at all possible. The benefit is greater than the effort.

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Posted by on May 12, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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The Drive Home

Today I ran an errand on the other side of town. Since the “back roads” were quicker to travel home, I enjoyed a country drive this evening. But the closer I drove to home, the more people I thought of in my life.

About half way home, I thought of my niece and nephew who both own homes nearby. I enjoy their company and am so glad they are doing well.

A little further and I saw the street to take to one of my cousin’s home. She’s a fellow scrapbooker, but has been working too much to go lately. I always feel loved in her company.

Next was a new friend from my scrapbooking life. She is a great cat mamma and is very creative. Her home has a full room dedicated to scrapbooking, but she allows her husband to think he has a desk in there. (No, he has a chair, the desk drawers are hers.)

Soon I drove by our neighbors only a couple of miles from home. They are so good to us and my mom and I both enjoy any time we get to spend with them.

Within only a quarter-mile was my sister’s home. I was glad to see she was already home for the night since she can work long hours. I need to spend more time with her.

I encountered more homes of loved ones before I made it to my own. What a blessing to be able to take a drive and encounter joyous memories of so many people.

I pray you find good memories the next time you’re traveling home.

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Posted by on April 18, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Christmas Card Lane

Small 1Kalamazoo, Michigan has a special treat during the Christmas season. It is a single street where many of the homeowners put out a Christmas Card for all to drive by and see.

Small 2Our one and only drive, if we even took one down this lane at the holidays, was on Christmas Eve. My parents and I would go to the Christmas Eve service at church. The service would end singing “Silent Night” by candlelight.

Small 3On the wintery drive home, we’d take time to drive down Christmas Card lane.

Small 4It is a delight to journey this road at night, Christmas Carols playing on the radio, with friends and family in the car to enjoy the sights.

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I wouldn’t trade these memories for anything.

 
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Posted by on January 19, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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My Dad’s Friend or Enemy?

Dads Old Smile CIRCLEMy dad was a passionate man. This passion I speak of was his strong emotion for certain things he valued in life. More often that not, his passion was shown with a kind word, a fun story, or a shared laugh. Once in a while, someone would get him going.

We had awesome vegetarian neighbors while I was growing up. They had their own chickens for eggs, their own garden to grow veggies, and their own fruit for wine. All of the dishes I ate at their home were absolutely delicious, well seasoned, and served with love. The conversation was another matter.

I feared that this adoring couple were friends with my mom, but enemies with my dad. I didn’t know how my dad could laugh so easily during the meal, but shout with vehemence after dinner while talking with the husband in their living room. Mom, the wife, and I always stayed in the kitchen around their warm and cozy kitchen table. Yet there was shouting in the living room!

It was years before I understood what the hollering was about in the other room. Turns out, the men were “discussing” politics. Both were liberal. Both were peace keepers. Both were Christian. Both were vehement in their beliefs. Both became passionate and boisterous in expressing their shared opinions. They were preaching to the choir. Or is that yelling at the choir?

Any which way, these men not only loved one another, they shared the same beliefs in many areas. They just happened to proclaim loudly those things that they believed most passionately.

Morale of the Story: Love is shown in many ways.

 
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Posted by on January 17, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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The Truth is Told!

I have the most amazing great nieces and nephew. I was recently overjoyed to receive the opportunity to sit for the youngest. We got to play, chat, read books, and sing songs. But bedtime came all too soon.

I put her to bed with a song and a book. I put her under the covers.

Not five minutes later she called out for orange juice.

I brought her much watered down orange juice in a sippy cup.

And the little sweetie pie says, “Oh, thank you very much! I’m not allowed to have juice in bed.”

I’ve never before sat for a child who told me the truth without my asking for it … after telling a lie. She made me laugh out loud, and days later I’m still giggling.

Morale of the Story: The truth will set you free … and it might bring forth laughter to the heart’s content.

 
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Posted by on January 16, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Oh, Christmas TreeS

“Oh, Christmas Tree, Oh, Christmas Tree, how beautiful your branches.” Well, once we settled on one . Our lovely slim Christmas tree purchased at Hobby Lobby in 2006 with pre-lit lights was no longer so lit. Mom and I went shopping for a new one. What an adventure!

We had three requirements. The first is that it needed to be unlit. No attached lights. Mom worries about the fire hazard of attached lights. The second requirement was that it had to be “hinged”. This means that it is in sections with all of the branches attached within each section. No tree with individual branches requiring attachment were allowed by me … ever again! Finally, the third criteria was for a slim tree. Nothing that would take over the living room and move us out.

So, how many trees are available that met this requirement? Let’s find out together.

Our first stop was Menard’s. After much searching, talking to two sales people, and reading every boxed tree in the joint, we found one. The sales people were so sweet and kind on our search and answering all of our questions. They had about 20 pre-lit trees and 15 unlit trees. Only two of the unlit trees were hinged. Only one of those was slim. Oh, but we bought the other one. Yes, after all of that research, we purchased the large-bottomed tree.

Not realizing this at the time, we took it home. Upon opening the box, it burst out. That was our first clue. The second clue was that it was tied tighter than a turduckin ready for the oven. Thirdly, the bottom section (in this case “A”) was more than 1/2 the weight of the entire box. Finally, When we dared cut the strings, it pushed us both back nearly out of the room. Hmmm…. to get it back in and return it.

After another hour, we had the beast back in the box (or so we like to say it was closed) and loaded in the car ready for the return. I was headed out of town to visit a friend, so mom would need to ask for assistance at Menard’s when the tree went back.

While I was away, mom toured Meijer, Target, Home Depot, Hobby Lobby, Wal-Mart, and Lowe’s. How many trees did she find that met our requirements? None! That’s correct. Not one single tree at six stores.

When I arrive home within the next few days, we head back to Menard’s. Uh-oh! The only tree that worked for us was sold out. Fortunately, there is a Menard’s on the south side of town. They were kind enough to hold it for us.

Phew! We got a tree!

She’s a beauty and we can use any color of lights we desire. This year we went with multi-colored for mom. I did sneak in my favorite angel topper (we only have four options).

Morale of the Story: Sometimes you can set your sights too high, but a thorough search might bring that goal to fruition.

 
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Posted by on January 4, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Lessons from Grandma

As a child, I was blessed with lots of time with my maternal Grandma. She was my most treasured and closest friend. We usually got along like cookies & milk. She was the cool and refreshing milk to my high strung sugar cookie.

“No” was not a word I associated with her. Perhaps she’d say, “not now”. That was pretty harsh coming from grandma. Her love was constant, her hugs ever present, and her heart bigger than her body. She taught me to use my imagination. She would tell me stories and listen to mine in turn (hers true, and mine pure fiction). I still smile at the mere thought of her.

My mom had two issues with her mother, both because grandma taught me very bad things. The first was to love lobster, and the second to appreciate Fannie May chocolates. Both very expensive things to desire out of life. And yet, these were the most expensive things grandma enjoyed. Money was never abundant, but love and humor were constants. Grandma taught me to enjoy lobster with butter and Fannie May chocolates with a thumbnail indent in the bottom.

Why would I enjoy chocolates with a thumbnail print pressed into the bottom? Because this was before the box had a much desired map guiding you through the decadent experience. Thereby, her small mark in the bottom center of each candy delight revealed the flavor. I would gladly eat the ones with that print left in it – so long as I liked the it. Grandma was my chocolate guide. Besides, I’d be hollered at if I did that. It was considered cute when grandma did it.

Our one disagreement arose whenever I was with her around 6 p.m. I would beg her to let me watch the Muppet Show. She would remind me of the importance of staying aware of the news in our community. I would beg her again and again to watch the Muppet Show. Eventually, she would make a quacking sound that I still hear as if it were yesterday. That quack meant that it was okay to change the channel, and I could watch the Muppet Show in her precious lap. Both of us delighted to be together.

There is nowhere better than to be in Grandma’s lap and surrounded by her love.

Morale of the Story: Life’s more fun without a map in the box of chocolates.

 
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Posted by on September 18, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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